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Deceitful Gestures: Lying or not Lying?
Here are some common signs that someone may be lying or being deceitful.
Being able to recognize when someone is being deceitful or even downright lying is a very useful skill you absolutely need to learn. following are several ways in which someone might signal to you that they are being deceitful.
Let's say that you are speaking with someone and you are trying to make a point or discussing your position regarding something important. Then you notice that the person you are speaking to starts to scratch the side of their neck while saying something like, "You are so right"or "I totally agree". Well, chance are they are lying. The neck scratch gave them away. This is a gesture that screams doubt and is a way of quietly saying, "I do not agree!"
Another example of quiet disagreement is when someone covers their mouth. It really doesn't matter if it is the whole hand, a few fingers or even their closed fist. This gesture still screams deceit. It is a subconscious reaction telling the person to not say what they are saying or perhaps thinking of saying.
If the person speaking does this - they may be lying. If the person listening to you is doing this, they either think you are lying, hiding something or they are trying to stop themselves from telling you that you are full of it. They are letting you know that they disagree in some way. You may want to re-think what you are telling them. whether they disagree with you or think you are lying, you will still need to find another way to get your point across.
It might be a touch of the nose, a scratch of the cheek or a rub of the eye. These are all subconscious gestures signaling deceit in what they are saying.
Of course you must always keep in mind that other factors could be in play and you should always be reading body language in clusters and take everything in context. The person might actually have allergies and that's why they are rubbing their nose. They might have actually had an itch or something in their eye.
Touching the nose may not mean it was itchy, as with other gestures i just described, this can be a sign of deceit. The eye rub is a subconscious way of not having to look at the person that you are lying to.
There are several other gestures you may witness that are signs of deceit and we will discuss these in future body language articles, but for now, I want you to start practicing looking for these signals when you are out and about, having conversations, watching presentations or in any public place. Practice looking for body language signals because being a master observer is part of being a master communicator.
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